The Laughter Quotient

One way to look at the state of your relationship is to look at how much pure fun you are having. How much do you laugh? Joke? How much can you laugh at yourself with your partner? How much fun and how much play?

These are the tools, especially the laughter, that help put things in perspective. The laughter is what breaks the tension, and helps you say to yourself and your partner that you are ready to let it go.Shared laughter brings you closer, and the private jokes between you are what helps make strong boundaries in your relationship. At a physiological level, laughter helps lessen stress and strenghtens the immune system.

Look for jokes, buy an anthology of Herman, or some other daily comic strip, tell your partner the stupidest thing you did when you were a kid, or what your mother used to do that drove you crazy...