Changing Your Relationship

I was speaking to a client the other day who was telling me how difficult it was dealing with some of their spouse's behaviour. My client knows the spouse has a problem and is trying and trying to help, but to no avail, and the spouse doesn't change.

I suggested that my client change their response to the spouse. If my client cannot help, or the spouse is not willing/able to accept help (for some depression) then the only thing that can change is my client's response.

The point is, sometimes, many times, we focus on someone else's behaviour and get frustrated when they will not change. Whereas a behaviour can be or become about something between you, a solution can be to just change your behaviour and outlook, because that is something you do have control over.