On guilt and grief

There are times when guilt and grief become difficult to pass through because they serve some needs. They tell people and ourselves that we do care, they defend us against what we feel might be criticisms on how we are handling things.

Often the fear of what someone else will think is more about how we feel at some level-- a criticism about ourselves, a way of punishing ourselves.

Everyone does grief in their own way and time. We have different strengths, different histories, and different skills. Only you know what is right for you.