Crises and Courage

Sometimes it is the hardest and worst of times that can be the instigation for real change. In personal terms, it can be hitting the bottom; sometimes for couples it can be a hitting the bottom too--the final blowout, the worst argument, the point at which you do something or say something which you haven't done before and which frightens you into acknowledgeing the changes you need to make in yourself. Sometimes we shame ourselves into making changes, guilt ourselves into realizing what we need to do. However and wherever we find our looking glass, we need to look hard, and then like Alice, go through it, so that we use that moment to build something better.